Be [proh-ak-tiv]
I keep telling my team that they we need to be more proactive all the time. On our website (www.remotedbaexperts.com) we talk a lot about proactive monitoring, proactive problem prevention, etc.
Proactivity has several meanings:
- Having an orientation to the future, anticipating problems and taking affirmative steps to deal positively with them rather than reacting after a situation has already occurred.
- Acting in advance to deal with an expected difficulty.
- Psychiatrist Dr. Viktor Frankl, describes a “proactive person” as one that takes responsibility for their life, instead of blaming outside circumstances or other people for their situation.
As you may infer from the above definitions, there are several aspects to proactivity. Proactivity is an attitude or mindset. My first exposure to the term came from Stephen Covey’s book, Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, a few years ago. He treats the subject better than anyone else. According to him, being proactive is the first of seven habits that highly effective people develop and live by. His model of proactivity claims that humans, unlike any other living forms, possess four abilities or capacities:
- Self-awareness
- Imagination
- Conscience
- Independent will
These capacities enable the “freedom to choose” how we respond to a stimulus—the things we see, hear, think, etc. or the conditions and circumstances we find ourselves in. Covey points out that, “highly proactive people do not blame circumstances, conditions, or past conditioning for their behavior.” Their behaviors (responses) are based on values, not on feelings. Reactive people tend to be affected more by their environment and by things outside their control such as weather. If the weather is “bad” they feel “bad” — they suffer and get down because of it. They worry about the war, the economy, and about many other things that they have nothing or very little to do about or control over. They worry about others and what they did, do, will do, or did not, don’t, or will not do. They are also highly affected by how others treat them, react to them, etc. They live at the mercy of others.
Covey poses that until a “reactive” or “non-proactive” person realizes, acknowledges, and accepts they are what and where they are today because of the choices and decisions they have made, as opposed to external conditions, circumstances and conditioning, they cannot become proactive.
Reactive people use a different language than proactive ones. Reactive people tend to say things like:
- Nothing I can do
- I can’t help it
- I have to…
- I cannot…
- I wish…
- There is no way…
- It’s impossible…
- If it wasn’t for…
- I have no control…
- Why are they doing this to me?
Worst, they believe these things and allow them to control them. They put their time and energy on trying to change things and people they do not have any control over. On the other hand proactive people focus on things they control and can do something about. According to Covey, when you do that you actually increase your “circle of influence.” By focusing and working on things you can control, you become better able to affect things that you otherwise did not before. That is the key point and most powerful lesson regarding this concept.
Covey describes three areas where the problems we face in life fall:
- Direct control (problems involving our own behavior)
- Indirect control (problems involving others’ behavior)
- No control (problems we can do nothing about)
He goes on to recommend that in order to solve “direct control” problems we need to work on our habits. To solve “indirect control” problems we need to work on our methods of influence. And in order to deal with problems we do not control we need to learn to accept there is nothing we can do and then move on.
I mentioned earlier that the first step to change our stance from reactive to proactive is recognizing and accepting it. The “language” list above can help you monitor your own language and assess your stance. Once you do make a list of all the things you worry most about, then determine which area of control they lay in: Direct, Indirect, or No control. With that inventory complete, move on to identifying the change strategies that will best deal with them including habits to change, new or different methods of influence, etc. If you do so, you will see your “circle of influence” grow bigger and bigger — Imagine what that would be like — And what it would mean to you and others important to you?
If you have not read Covey’s book Seven Habits of Highly Effective People yet, get a hold of it ASAP — It is GREAT — it may change your life!!! And NO, I did not get a free copy of the book to “promote” itJ! In fact, I think it is one of the most sold business books of all times.
The BEST is Yet to Come!
Epi Torres, CEO
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